Into the Depths of Hell

The sex video scandal involving Dr. Hayden Kho, Jr. is going out of proportion. I am sure Dr. Hayden himself did not expect that his hobby of taking video of him and his sex partners would make him notorious to the point that his medical license is in jeopardy. He did not expect to be famous. But thanks to Dr. Vicky Belo, Dr. Hayden Kho who was once so famous is now sooooo infamous.

It was written in "Love, lies & Lipo" by Jo-ann Maglipon and Anna Pingol for the March 2009 issue of Yes! magazie that Dr. Hayden Kho, Jr. (Hayden) had numerous affair with women even while he and Dr. Vicki Belo (Vicki) were still "on". Vicki received information about these affairs through anonymous text messages, which she ignored upon assurance from Hayden. But one of Hayden's buddies was "wronged" (woman related, of course) by Hayden and sought refuge from Vicki. Vicki gave that guy the key to Hayden's condominium, and he stole Hayden's personal computer and journals to look for "evidence" of his "crime".

I cannot help but theorize that if Dr. Vicki Belo did not violate Dr. Kho's privacy by giving the enemy of his boyfriend the key to his boyfriend's apartment, Dr. Hayden Kho would not have been into this mess.

I would like to believe that videos, such as the one that made Hayden notorious, if shown between friends, have the effect of multiplying pogi or machu points among peers. Otherwise, if it is shown in public, the effect is disaster. Dr. Hayden knows about this, of course, that is why I do not believe that he was the one responsible for the publication of this videos. Neither are his sex partners in those videos. In the first place, it was apparent that they were not aware that they were being filmed.

So, who was responsible for the publication of this videos?

I can't think of anyone but the guy to whom Dr. Vicki Belo gave the key to Dr. Hayden Kho's apartment. He was the one who was wronged by Dr. Kho. So, he has all the motive.

And if you ask me who started this scandal, I would answer that it was not Hayden. Yes, he filmed his sexcapades in violation of the rights of his partners, but he did not publish them. It was Dr. Vicki Belo's grave mistake of delivering his boyfriend into the hands of his enemy that started this scandal.

A woman can transform a man to become more than what he dreams to be, just like Dr. Belo's role in the life of Dr. Kho. But if she is not careful, especially in times of grief, a woman can also deliver her man into the depths of hell, like where Dr. Hayden Kho, Jr. is now.

In defense of Hayden Kho/Judging Vicki and Katrina

You must have taken hold and read the article titled "Love, lies & Lipo" by Jo-ann Maglipon and Anna Pingol for the March 2009 issue of Yes! magazine. Yes, the article is focused on the three names I mentioned in the title.

The article is of course well researched and extensive, therefore very long.

Dr. Hayden Kho, Jr. (Hayden) had numerous affair with women even while he and Dr. Vicki Belo (Vicki) were still "on". Vicki received information about these affairs through anonymous text messages, which she ignored upon assurance from Hayden. But one of Hayden's buddies was "wronged" (woman related, of course) by Hayden and sought refuge from Vicki. Vicki gave that guy the key to Hayden's condominium, and he stole Hayden's personal computer and journals to look for "evidence" of his "crime".

Also, in one of the "mini" break-ups of Hayden and Vicki, Hayden went to Katrina because he needed someone to talk with. That nothing happened during that talk, Katrina emphasized that she and Hayden talked in the car. According to Katrina, Hayden wept and was overly devastated ("...nag-usap kami sa kotse, 'tapos umiiyak siya. 'Tapos, parang devastated na devastated siya").

Then Katrina spilled that Hayden was scared to lose Vicki as he thought he had nowhere to go to to practice his profession ("...hindi niya kayang mawal a si Vicki sa kanya,kasi paano na lang pag nawala si Vicki? Paano siya magtratraabaho, e, wala na siyang puwedeng malilipatan").

Three paragraphs before the end of the article, it says:

"Friends who have been witness to the Hayden-Vicki three-year romance believe him. They say that the man has his warts and all, but he really did seem to love the lady. He actually trusted her with his life's plans, derailing his love of medicine for the celebrity life that the lady mapped out for him and which he ended up embracing..."

Yes, Hayden had been unfaithful to Vicki, and that wasn't fair. But I do not think what Vicki did to Hayden was also fair. In fact, it was foul. How could Vicki act as if she owns her boyfriend's condo and have it ransacked by someone else, especially the enemy of her boyfriend?

Can the means justify the end? St. Agustine said no.

Indeed, no one can be with the man or woman he or she distrusts. The good news with Hayden-Vicki saga is that, Vicki Belo is also as untrustworthy as Hayden Kho.

The same with Katrina.

When a person comes to lay bare his heart to you, may that person be a sinner (like your kabit) or saint (an innocent friend), you have the obligation to keep his words secret because those words and the meaning behind them are sacred. You have no right, no matter how hurt you are, to divulge them to any other person for whatever reasons.

Omar Sortijas, Katrina's confidante, is no exeption. Omar had no right to peer into the private property (cellphone) of Hayden. What disturbs me is, he has no qualms of revealing his worse character flaw on national media. In the same article he was quoted:

"Isang time, nasa bahay kami, nandoon kami sa kama (with Katrina)...Nakuha ko cellphone (ni Hayden). Pakialamera kasi ako sa kanila. So pinapakialaman ko 'yong cellphone, 'tapos binabasa ko. Oh, my god, may pinanggalingan siyang bahay ng another girl..."

People like Omar Sortijas and Vicki Belo should be in jail for theft. They steal information, and stealing is a crime regardless of the material stolen or the purpose for which it is stolen. As to Katrina, she is nothing but a swindler. The information Hayden divulged was not hers. It was only entrusted to her. As such, she had no right to give it away, like she voluntarily did in her effort to save her reputation.

Hayden maybe unfaithful. Yes. But isn't he just a reflection of the kind of people (Vicki, Katrina, Omar) who surround him?